What is Beauty?

Is beauty in the eyes of the beholder?

is it in her poise-the way she carries herself

is it in her smile- the way she brightens a room when she does

is it the sound of her voice- that captures you as she speaks

is it the way she sways her hips- when she walks to and fro

is it the color of her eyes- how they sparkle so when she looks

is it her soft full breasts- the way they bounce when she walks

the length and shape of her legs- toned, that carry her so poised

What makes someone beautiful?

Is it in his smile-as he shows you his happiness

is it in his soft eyes- that show kindness and love

is it in his well formed tush- you like to look at when he walks

is it is six-pack abs- that you like to glide your fingers across

is it his well defined arms- that make you feel safe

perhaps it is in the way he speaks- you can hear his patience

copyright 2005 lac

I have read articles about this subject, one recently by a man. Some men have been quite brutal to woman about us only seeking "hot men". This disturbed me and also made me laugh. It disturbed me because most woman do not choose "hot men" and each women has their own idea or description as to who they would consider a "hot man". Women do not all go after the same type of "hot man", if this were true, the world of dating would be monotonous. Such is not the case. Women now give themselves standards they follow. We are more selective with whom we want to date and we have the right to be. I believe we are following in the males footsteps by doing this. Men for years have always been selective. I remember distinctly growing up that my blonde friends were always getting chosen over me, a brunette. We use to joke about it and we did ask the guys; their reply "blondes have more fun". Well I have proved that theory wrong over the years. Another of the mens most wanted list while growing up was big breasts! Oh yes, something I never had, use to want to have, then I realized the shallowness of it. I am glad I am not big breasted. I understand men have their likes and dislikes of what they seek in a woman so why is it wrong for a woman? Double standard?

As a woman, my standards have changed over the past 14 years. They are not the same they were when I was a teen or young adult. Standards change with maturity. When you are younger (18-23ish) you aren't necessarily looking for a lifemate, but perhaps a guy to date, to see what is out there, what dating is like and enjoy each other and the friendship. You also get a sense of what you want and do not want in a partner. Now I look for maturity, loyality, financial security, if they are kind and loving, and spirituality. To me, those are important. (and others)

Some women want a man to be financially secure (not rich although some women are gold-diggers, but that is not the majority). Some men may disagree with that, I have an explanation. Men who constantly get a gold-digger or high-maintenance woman are looking for them and they may not know it. These woman are gorgeous, perfect-looking, want the best..etc and if that is what you are looking for guys, that is what you will get. I am in no way saying all woman are like that, but that is the profile. Not too hard to understand.

Some people call me picky, I do not mind. I call it being selective as I have the right to be. At least I know what I want and what I do not want. Every women has her own standards and needs and wants. We all arent looking for the "hot man" and if so, like I said before, every women has her own description of what a "hot man" is. For example, I think Enrique Iglesias is perfect, some of my friends agree some disagree.

Truth be told, women still want that chivalrous man and the "nice guy", I know I do. Nice, chivalrous men come in all looks, shapes and sizes. As do women.